I'm really bad at understanding subtoots, both because of their vagueness and because I'm never sure if they are meant for me or not.
Please, if anyone wants me to content warn something, or to figure out a new CW for something, or if anyone wants to correct me on my English or regarding a term I'm using wrong, or if I'm using oppressive rhetoric against a group, please warn me directly, even if we aren't friends.
Hi there! #introductions
I'm @Aster and I made an account here so I can talk about #queer / #IMOGA / #MOGAI stuff in English without either spamming English-speaking-only followers with stuff they can't understand or spamming my instance's public timeline with English toots about labels they don't care about.
I'm #aspec / #arospec / #acespec, #mspec, #nonbinary / #genderqueer and #polyam. More specifically, I'm an #aroflux #demisexual #nonvirmina who's in a relationship with two other people.
These are statistics focused on asexual oppression, but they also contain useful data for oppression against other orientations and trans people.
Content warning for statistics on homelessness, attempted suicide, harassment, conversion therapy and other bad things.
https://unicorn-march.tumblr.com/post/187318656257/what-do-aces-face
How society views you does not define you. Sometimes "self expression" can feel like "self repression" if your gender does not "match" the way you like to dress.
Sometimes you're not expressing anything besides what colours and patters you like to wear. You're not trying to "express" a gender, you just wear what looks nice to your eyes or feels nice on your skin. Society is just reading too much into it, and their incorrect interpretation does not define you.
Gender should be opt-in, not opt-out.
(and opting out is extremely difficult and almost impossible in our current society)
I don't think it's right to force people into a system like that from birth. If someone wants to identify as a certain gender later, they can do that. Until they tell you their gender, I think it's best to assume that a person is just a person and not put any gender labels on them based on how they look or act. Even the pressure to choose a label can be stressful, sometimes you're just you and no matter how many labels there are, none of them feel right.
I think there need to be more options for people who don't feel comfortable existing in a gender system.
Today I've learned about this flag for nonpolar orientations (assuming it's for all orientations and not just sexual orientations): https://commons.wikimedia.org/wiki/File:Nonpolar_nonbinary_sexuality_pride_flag.png
It's interesting because it's for any orientation that isn't lesbian/gay/straight, which means it includes:
• viramoric/feminamoric people
• a-spec and m-spec people
• people with attractions to one or more nonbinary identities who don't label their identity as lesbian/gay;
• people whose orientations are fluid or undefined.