it's Az! @stardust@queer.party

I'm really bad at understanding subtoots, both because of their vagueness and because I'm never sure if they are meant for me or not.

Please, if anyone wants me to content warn something, or to figure out a new CW for something, or if anyone wants to correct me on my English or regarding a term I'm using wrong, or if I'm using oppressive rhetoric against a group, please warn me directly, even if we aren't friends.

This account is locked because I don't want people to follow me just out of politeness, or because they just follow anyone in front of them (this includes bots). I don't want hatefollowers or people following just for private posts either.

I /will/ talk about pride flags, obscure queer labels and lack of awareness/recognition of lesser-known identities and concepts related to them.

Feel free to not follow if you don't want to see that. You may unfollow anytime too.

- I'm Brazilian and I (help) run a bunch of queer/IMOGA/LGBTQIAPN+ sites and groups in Portuguese

- I'm an ex-Pride Flag Collective (pride-flags dA/Pride Color Schemes Tumblr) mod

- I don't mind people who don't want to use labels, too many labels, labels that are too specific and so on for themselves, but I don't tolerate people who mock other people's labels for superficial reasons (and yes, weird names or having to look them up to know their meanings are superficial reasons)

Hi there! #introductions

I'm @Aster and I made an account here so I can talk about #queer / #IMOGA / #MOGAI stuff in English without either spamming English-speaking-only followers with stuff they can't understand or spamming my instance's public timeline with English toots about labels they don't care about.

I'm #aspec / #arospec / #acespec, #mspec, #nonbinary / #genderqueer and #polyam. More specifically, I'm an #aroflux #demisexual #nonvirmina who's in a relationship with two other people.

🜯 looks like a NB woman symbol (https://orientando.org/wp-content/uploads/2018/08/nb-woman-sketch.png)

🜧 looks like agender + NB + woman

similarly, 🜭 looks like an agender woman or librafeminine symbol upside down

🜔 is basically an agender symbol; A basic circle can be used for that too, but 🜔 is more recognizable imho

I have never looked for 🜨, it's the symbol for Earth so it makes sense it's an Unicode symbol too, but I don't remember seeing it. Either way, it can mean ipsogender (https://www.deviantart.com/pride-flags/art/Ipsogender-620678950)

hey, I just found out 🜬 is an existing unicode symbol???

#nonbinary

Gender can mean different things for different people. It's fine if you identify with the same word as someone else for different reasons, or if you and someone else have different labels and the same sense of gender identity.

But what everyone's sense of gender has to account for is everyone else's identities. Even if your gender identity could never be X, you have to account for people who are X.

This also goes for gender-oriented attractions, even if takes time to adjust.

I wish pride star emojos were more common than they are. 🤔

I have pixelated hearts on my instance, but maybe I should make some non-pixelated stars too.

So let me tell you:

Those people with aporagenders, xenogenders and/or neurogenders? Those people with unconventional gender labels? Those people who hoard gender labels?

They tend to be way more knowledgeable about gender and how it can work than people with "reasonable" gender ids who don't want to have anything to do with them.

Because we talk to each other, we brainstorm ideas, we keep our minds open, and we try to talk about the core of our identities, even when it's hard.

And yet, a lot of people defend those lines of thinking, because "everyone has to start somewhere", because "it makes logical sense", because "this way it's easy to understand", and so on.

But then, when people have gender identities that don't match up with cissexist norms?

*These* people are seen as wrong, as childish, as conflating gender with the wrong things.

- that if you are feminine you like men and that if you are masculine you like women

- that nonbinary people can't possibly have orientations based on gender

- that only binary genders are really genders, the rest is a lack of gender, a mix of binary genders, being confused or something else derived from binary genders

- that gender is solely based on dysphoria, gender expression or pronouns

- that GNC trans people can't exist or aren't really trans

- and so on

I've seen so many people make assumptions about gender that make no sense in a larger scale:

- that being assigned a gender means you are that gender by default (or "kind of that gender" if you are nonbinary or even binary trans)

- that only binary genders exist

- that binary people can only desire to have bodies that are the same as cis perisex people with that gender

- that if you are feminine it means you are somewhat female, and that if you are masculine you are somewhat male

f/f relationship = sapphic

m/m relationship = achillean

f/m relationship = duaric

relationship involving at least one nonbinary person = diamoric

nb/nb relationship = enbian

nb/f relationship = trixic or orbisian

nb/m relationship = toric or quadrisian

(of course, you can also say things such as "an achillean triad" or "a diamoric polycule", this is all for the sake of simplicity)

#Genderfluid pride day is April 6th. I hope genderfluid people are having a great day ✨

Just got to upload three new lesbian flags to Pride-Flags.

https://www.deviantart.com/pride-flags/art/Lesbian-6-792613831
https://www.deviantart.com/pride-flags/art/Lesbian-7-792615982
https://www.deviantart.com/pride-flags/art/Lesbian-8-792618198

A shame Medium links don't work on deviantArt, though.

oh yeah, there's also "anti-[group] discrimination" and more general stuff such as cissexism and heterosexism

(although, of course, depending on context, it's more correct to talk about anti-sapphic discrimination than about heterosexism as a whole, for example)

"but -misia came from bigots!"

I think it's more widely used by non-bigots at this point, and most people who use it learned about it from anti-ableist people.

And if you don't like -misia, there is also -bigotry and -antagonism, although I prefer misia because it's shorter and I think it makes more sense in context.

Maybe I could accept that phobia as a suffix for bigotry is different from phobia as a neurodivergent thing (like phobia as a ND thing is separate from phobia as a chemical phenomenon, eg hydrophobic concrete) if people didn't use rhetoric like:

"Homophobes are [ableist slur] and need to get some therapy/medicine to be cured"

or other things that imply that "homophobia" and such are "mental problems" and that all "mental problems" can and need to be "cured".

I'm not sure if I have ever posted these yet (I can't find them on my other accounts), so here are some free to use queer chevron headers!

All of these are 1500x500.

Credit is appreciated, but not required.

#queer #queerChevron #queerFlag