I'm really bad at understanding subtoots, both because of their vagueness and because I'm never sure if they are meant for me or not.
Please, if anyone wants me to content warn something, or to figure out a new CW for something, or if anyone wants to correct me on my English or regarding a term I'm using wrong, or if I'm using oppressive rhetoric against a group, please warn me directly, even if we aren't friends.
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This account is locked because I don't want people to follow me just out of politeness, or because they just follow anyone in front of them (this includes bots). I don't want hatefollowers or people following just for private posts either.
I /will/ talk about pride flags, obscure queer labels and lack of awareness/recognition of lesser-known identities and concepts related to them.
Feel free to not follow if you don't want to see that. You may unfollow anytime too.
- I'm Brazilian and I (help) run a bunch of queer/IMOGA/LGBTQIAPN+ sites and groups in Portuguese
- I'm an ex-Pride Flag Collective (pride-flags dA/Pride Color Schemes Tumblr) mod
- I don't mind people who don't want to use labels, too many labels, labels that are too specific and so on for themselves, but I don't tolerate people who mock other people's labels for superficial reasons (and yes, weird names or having to look them up to know their meanings are superficial reasons)
Hi there! #introductions
I'm @Aster and I made an account here so I can talk about #queer / #IMOGA / #MOGAI stuff in English without either spamming English-speaking-only followers with stuff they can't understand or spamming my instance's public timeline with English toots about labels they don't care about.
external link, use of -phobia as bigotry, about inclusion
Assumption: Inclusion is good
YouTube link; exorsexism / cissexism
Trans 101: Nonbinary Vs. Gender Non-Conforming
Tumblr link; aromisia / amatonormativity
Coming Out As Aromantic, and Why I Often Don’t (Carnival of Aros)
How social media–savvy youth became the unofficial keepers of queer history (external link)
exclusion that mainly affects nonbinary people, bitter
Shoutout to every it/its and/or neopronoun users who get erased/ignored every time a news outlet or information booth or whatever talks about some nonbinary people using they/them in a way that looks like she/her, he/him and they/them are the only viable or "usable" pronoun sets.
These are statistics focused on asexual oppression, but they also contain useful data for oppression against other orientations and trans people.
Content warning for statistics on homelessness, attempted suicide, harassment, conversion therapy and other bad things.
How society views you does not define you. Sometimes "self expression" can feel like "self repression" if your gender does not "match" the way you like to dress.
Sometimes you're not expressing anything besides what colours and patters you like to wear. You're not trying to "express" a gender, you just wear what looks nice to your eyes or feels nice on your skin. Society is just reading too much into it, and their incorrect interpretation does not define you.
Gender should be opt-in, not opt-out.
(and opting out is extremely difficult and almost impossible in our current society)
I don't think it's right to force people into a system like that from birth. If someone wants to identify as a certain gender later, they can do that. Until they tell you their gender, I think it's best to assume that a person is just a person and not put any gender labels on them based on how they look or act. Even the pressure to choose a label can be stressful, sometimes you're just you and no matter how many labels there are, none of them feel right.
I think there need to be more options for people who don't feel comfortable existing in a gender system.
The Asexual Manifesto (1972) - content warnings inside
This being an old document, it's not surprising that it contains some questionable language/rhetoric:
- The asexual identity here is seen as something that only people who aren't into sex can be, which is a harmful notion that leads to gatekeeping and erasure of sex-neutral and sex-favorable aces;
- Pronoun usage is like "him/her" instead of "them";
- This seems to be from a radical feminist perspective, so I'm not sure how much of this is entrenched into anti-kink/monosexist/cissexist/colonialist/etc. rhetoric.
However, it's good to have a piece of asexual history around.
Tumblr link, exorsexism
And here are some informative post about xenogenders and other nonbinary experiences:
Tumblr link, info post about neopronouns
Today I've learned about this flag for nonpolar orientations (assuming it's for all orientations and not just sexual orientations): https://commons.wikimedia.org/wiki/File:Nonpolar_nonbinary_sexuality_pride_flag.png
It's interesting because it's for any orientation that isn't lesbian/gay/straight, which means it includes:
• viramoric/feminamoric people
• a-spec and m-spec people
• people with attractions to one or more nonbinary identities who don't label their identity as lesbian/gay;
• people whose orientations are fluid or undefined.
anti-queer persecution in Russia, murder, tumblr link, -phobia-as-discrimination language
Here are some donation links to the Russian LGBT Network:
You, as a nonbinary person, do not have to prove your worth to binary trans people.
It's unfortunate that that some of them choose to turn on us. However, that is their decision and not your failing.
There are even more of our binary trans sisters and brothers who do care about us.
They're the ones who deserve our time and focus.
Tumblr link - agendercute
Agendercute: A combination of the terms Gendercute/Cutegender and Agender. When your experience with being agender is focused on the aspects of cuteness.
here's a suggestion for when you are concerned that an identity is wrong or invalid:
Seek experiences. Maybe talk to people, if you can't find anything that has already been written.
"Are demi people just confused pan people?" Go see what kinds of demi experiences are out there.
"Isn't being genderfluid just fluctuating dysphoria?" Go see what genderfluid people have to say on that.
If you disdain those people so much you don't want to understand their side, your concern for them is fake.
external link, many kinds of discrimination, pride month thing I've only seen now
#Queersplaining - callie is in a complicated relationship with pride
I'm Aster (and you can call me Ás, Ace, Azzie, Az and so on). I'm an aroflux & demisexual lichtgender nonvirmina who likes talking about labels.
A silly instance of Mastodon for queer folk and non-queer folk alike. Let's be friends!