Also I'm seeing "screencap dunk" culture coming over already and seriously can we not
@AzureFemme my hot take is that people give twitter the company too much credit for ruining twitter and not enough credit to the people on it, many of whom will be coming here if they’re not already.
@AzureFemme like yeah twitter the company sucks, but they’re also not the ones tweeting all the things that make us feel shitty constantly (they’re just profiting from it)
@AzureFemme (sorry, this is my pessimism about social media coming out, i was very skeptical of much of the mastodon optimism and I’m feeling very Validated about it rn, even though i do think it’s better and the open architecture is definitely an improvement)
@poss_bot I don't know what to say in response to this. I understand that and also want someplace to be where this isn't happening.
@AzureFemme very very reasonable thing to feel :(
@AzureFemme i ALSO think this is a thing that will just have to shake out on mastodon periodically (and that it will isn’t an indictment of the platform to be certain!). It just grew a lot, I’m not surprised really. It does suck though, and even i was hoping we’d somehow magically avoid it this time.
@AzureFemme (also i apologize if any of this comes off as crass, what you’re talking about seriously sucks, people shouldn’t put up with it, and i think better things are possible. They just aren’t going to happen bc we moved to a new site, there’s more to do than that!)
@poss_bot yeah I hear that. I find vocal pessimism rarely helpful for myself so that can be offputting but I also hear your realistic concerns
@AzureFemme really sorry. That was a bit of emotions spilling out where they probably shouldn’t have been; i don’t at all wanna diminish your feelings/needs by going “i told you/everyone so!”. I’m feeling some complex and challenging feelings rn for sure.
@poss_bot that's fair. There's a lot going on and investment in platforms and people absolutely have expectations for Masto that aren't realistic. Its hard
Like that we can silence or suspend whole instances, that have users with mostly that behavior.
There are at least better moderation tools here, to make sure that toxic culture doesn't spread too far.
Here I also made a stand against that by telling people to cut it out and / or CW where appropriate or I'm done with them
I can't do it anymore and I'm making it clear that isn't welcome on my TL. I'll just do without people who so it and boost it.
Harsh but I have to reclaim some of what I lost to Twitter
@poss_bot I mean let's be real Twitter the company is also complicit in it but yeah also there are lots of toxic people
@AzureFemme right? you think disabling quote retweets sent a CLEAR message to people that was a behavior that frequently resulted in harm and toxicity, but people are gonna try anyway
@AzureFemme oh it's BEEN here
@ratbaby ok thanks
@AzureFemme I really wish it would stop. It's a big toxic Twitter thing that we do not need in this space.
@ratbaby yeah same. Just gonna block everyone I see doing it I guess
@AzureFemme is this why people keep tooting screenshots of other toots? I really didn't understand why they're doing it.
@polychrome seems that way
@AzureFemme or at least cw'd
@baronnarcveldt I don't think cw's would counter the underlying toxicity of it personally
@AzureFemme I don't disagree. I would ultimately like to see birdsite culture kept over there permanently. Most people who weren't banned can still go there and get whatever they get out of it like dunking on people. And this site clearly has its own unique culture
@AzureFemme As an apparent neophyte, I'm not sure I'm familiar with that concept?
@mattfox taking screenshots of someone's toots to complain about how horrible they are and/or screenshotting a conversation you have with them where you make fun of them
@AzureFemme Ah. Yeah, how about not.
@mattfox yeah, right? I'm good without it actually
@AzureFemme Same. But that's the power of Mastodon as a platform. Active moderators and peering rules to keep the idiots isolated :)
@AzureFemme So yeah, I mix up slang and googled "screencap dunk"-- this is the top hit for the phrase.
If I understand the term correctly, yeah I'd rather not too. I like just talking to people and enjoying the things they want to share.
@zoeyborealis I'm a linguistic trend setter
@AzureFemme It's really the worst. I unfollow dunkers so hard!
@AzureFemme hard agree
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