tonight i explained to my 3 year old why "the police arrest Bad People" (a sentence uttered in one episode of a toddler show she watches) is incorrect in an age-appropriate way.

i feel immense relief about this because i can't maintain my integrity if i allow my kid to develop the idea that cops and rules are inherently good.

how to teach white kids that cops aren't good 

i told my kid that a rule can be bad, and that a rule is bad if it causes you to hurt people. the example of a bad rule i gave was it being illegal in some places to give food to houseless people.

i said that being arrested doesn't mean that you've done something bad, and it typically means that you've broken a rule. so i told her that the job of police is to arrest and punish people who have broken a rule, even if the rule is one that hurts people.

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how to teach white kids that cops aren't good part 2 of ? 

good groundwork:

don't teach your kid obedience to authority. teach your kid to question you, and treat them like you value their developing reasoning skills. admit when you are wrong. regularly apologize to your child when you are wrong. you can't teach a kid that cops aren't good if you act like a cop.

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re: how to teach white kids that cops aren't good part 2 of ? 

@metapianycist

If I may: non-verbal communication is VERY important with a child. It's better not to apologize if the way you apologize conveys that you're not self-confident, as it will shatter the child's own confidence, which is entirely disastrous.
If one is able to apologize in a healthy way, as a "people make mistakes and the important thing is to correct them" then yes your advice is sound.

re: how to teach white kids that cops aren't good part 2 of ? 

@metapianycist

(I don't know of course but I've seen this apology culture that mainly conveys "nothing is true" so I'm quite wary of how what you say may be interpreted)

re: how to teach white kids that cops aren't good part 2 of ? 

@LienRag I'm not aware of any apology culture (especially not an epistemologically relativist one), but i do know that it's a common misconception that apologizing to your child will make them trust you less because you're revealing that you're not omniscient... when the opposite actually happens, and the kid develops more trust in you because you demonstrated humility and vulnerability.

re: how to teach white kids that cops aren't good part 2 of ? 

@LienRag I'm not sure what you mean by an apology with self-confidence? can you give examples of what that means?

i think that modeling humility is important when apologizing to my kid, and I'm having trouble imaging "humble" and "confident" describing the same action?

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