Hezekiah ✡️⚧Ⓐ☭ @metapianycist@queer.party

https://www.gofundme.com/Marisastrong

please share widely to help ensure that she has the funds to pay american medical bills and other bills during her cancer treatment.

#cancer #lymphoma

i've said it before and i'll say it again: i have a mighty need for country music about having to pirate your tractor's software

1. i can't seem to make my phone notify me when i receive a follow request.

2. unless you demonstrate to me that you're a real person and that your aim isn't malicious, I'm not approving your follow request. i take great comfort in having the power to approve or deny follow requests. i've had a lot of hatefollowers and stalkers elsewhere and i don't want any more.

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Pronoun emojis thread: https://queer.party/@metapianycist/100651250913477927

Identities: https://queer.party/@metapianycist/100651347889321266

I #CanHelpWith

- trans and nonbinary information & resources
- German language (if you're a beginner. I'm at an intermediate level)
- helping you figure out if you're #ActuallyAutistic or have #ADHD or both
- sharing books from my ebook hoard (YA fiction, #StarTrek TOS novels, Baby-Sitters Club, python, java, web development, trans fiction and nonfiction, lgbt studies, American history)
- offering gentle headpats when you're sad

i don't have a TL;DR version of this and i also thought i'd have more words

(end of thread until i think of more, i guess)

i want to set a good example for my child, and that involves never delighting in someone's pain, no matter how bad a person is or how good it might feel for me to see them suffer. i want her to learn that it's human to feel pleasure if someone who hurt you is feeling pain. but i don't want her to think that those feelings are a good framework for how to treat people.

the former is misapplied death etiquette. the latter is criticism of vengefulness and is fully compatible with saying that the deceased was a bad person.

i don't think that it's bad to feel relief or even positive emotions when someone dies. because we don't choose our emotions. but we can choose whether to feed them. and encouraging vengeful feelings or purposefully delighting in the suffering of an enemy are incompatible with healing the world.

i wish more people understood the difference between "don't speak ill of the dead" and "i don't feel bad that [politician who did a lot of serious harm they never regretted] died, and i absolutely understand feeling relieved, but encouraging people to party or delight in their death doesn't actually do anything to help the people they directly harmed or fix the problems they caused"

the best eulogy in high fantasy ever written was penned by mercedes lackey, and it is: "she was the most remarkable and sweetest old bitch the gods ever created"

i'm reading a book where a mage determines that a creature is a magical construct and not a real living thing because it has no asshole