I'm a 29 years old cis man. Demisexual and demiromantic crybaby. Had a tough break up with my boyfriend this past summer. With all the chaos happening on #Tumblr this december, a certain blogger recommended queer.party, so I came to hang out. I like #games! I played a lot of video games growing up, but would like to get more in to table top gaming. I like RPGs, minis, cards and board games alike.
reminder that there's no such thing as 'hatewatching,' or dragging an ad, or quote-tweeting some racist politician. there's literally an entire school of 'outrage-based advertisting' that seeks to exploit your reactions because hating something enough to yell about it manipulates people into getting more eyes on the thing they're hawking. the idea that you Have To Respond is a brain-divot they're trying to sneak in through.
you know what does work? deplatforming.
Reminder that you don't need to use link shorteners like bit.ly etc on Mastodon.
All links on Mastodon count for 23 characters no matter how long or short they actually are.
Meta about reacting to being called bad.
Remember, people don't call you out unless they care.
Gabbers? We write them off and block without a second chance.
If someone calls you out instead of just blocking, they're hoping you'll be able to overcome the shitty thing you said and be better.
Don't take offense to being told you were racist or whatnot, be grateful they give enough of a shit about you to let you know and give you chance to get better.
@LexYeen the way i see it i'm basically an outcast from whiteness for genetic impurity. I'm not Good Enough for them, so fuck em.
The great thing about mocking whiteness is that the only people who could possibly take offense at it are the people who cling to the notion that "white culture" is a thing.
'Cause "white culture" is actually patriarchal, cishetronormative colonial-Christian culture. It's the shitty, bland, oppressive result of stamping actual European cultures into the ground and turning them into a homogenous mess. And then inflicting that trauma on the rest of the world.
pol i guess
@em probably the most significant large-scale American psychology experiment was The Milgram Experiment, designed to figure out why the Germans are so mechanically obedient. Turns out that Americans were so mechanically obedient that the entire hypothesis broke down before they even tested it on a German.
If you are committed to not making this another birdsite/hellsite, your first, ultimate, top priority is keeping marginalized people protected from hateful people. That is the main and crucial difference between Mastodon and Twitter & Tumblr.
The way that a marginalized person reacts when there is a breach in this protection is not what makes this turn into a toxic place.
If you fuck up.... That's okay! It happens.
What you need to do then is legitimately apologise, actually understand where you went wrong, and then fix it. Make a legit effort to learn and fix it.
You get called racist? We are all unlearning generations of racism. Just admit it, apologize, learn why it was racist, and correct yourself.
No need to make a scene. No matter how embarrassed you are.
Just apologize and move on. You can gush about your embarrassment later, after you patched it over.
Jim. He/Him pronouns. 29 years old. Demisexual and demiromantic video game nerd. Avi is Sig, the autistic-coded protagonist of Puyo Puyo Fever 2. He likes bugs!
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