https://sifuhotman.bandcamp.com/track/matches Probably really useful for a lot of people right now.
No matter the outcome of today, it's heart warming to know that we build micro-communities together where we truly look out for and support each other. The small work piles up into big things. Keep acting with compassion and love, and remember that rage helps protect those who need it. Adoration and strength to all of you ❤️❤️❤️
my anti-despair recipe
When I'm on the verge of despair, I read LOVE, AFFIRMATION, and THE TRADITION (all poems by Assata Shakur), various excerpts by Kuwasi Balagoon, and random other political writings by Black folks. It nourishes me and reminds me that we today are part of a long history of resistance.
Positive affirmations for safewording
Good subs use their safewords when they need to. Good subs are honest and open with their Dom(me)s about their emotional state and give them the information they need to decide how to best proceed and take care of their subs. Good subs don't try to manage their Dom(me)'s emotions for them or "protect" them from the "disappointment" of a sub whose endurance has temporarily run out.
Good Dom(me)s will praise you for using your safeword. They will thank you for being honest.
If it helps, don't think of you saying "red" as forcibly taking back power (that you don't REALLY want back) or topping from the bottom. Think of your safewords like a little meter on your Dom(me)'s dashboard. When you say "Red," that's the car telling the Dom(me) "hey this thing's gonna explode or break down if you don't pull over and take the keys out of the ignition." It's the Dom(me) who chooses to pull over, based on that information.
If they don't, better get a new driver.