anyway from my brief time on this one friendica instance it seems that there's not really any way/expectation to flag things as being Very Problematic or to get any idea of what's blessed by the admins or whatever. Having your CoC be "This is a friendly place!" isn't very helpful and so far Friendica seems like it's really just trying to be Facebook But Decentralized.

As always, the actual problem with Facebook isn't that it's centralized.

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Really wish there were a way to peek at an instance's timeline before signing up.

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I just went through the rigamarole of finding a Friendica public instance, signing up for it, going through the whole song-and-dance to activate my account, and then looked at the timeline to see a flood of alt-right bullshit. Sigh.

if you're white and you use the internet, you have a duty to ensure that the spaces you are in are not a safe space for white supremacists. no, "oh but I like this person and they've never done anything in MY group" -- listen to us. listen to what we have to say. report people to the mods or if it's an ongoing problem, *leave the fucking group and let people know why you're leaving*.

make mods explain their decisions. make it uncomfortable. make it weird.

it's the LEAST you can do.

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friendly reminder that:

- you do not need to think someone is the scum of the earth to block them or mute them
- being blocked or muted does not mean you are a bad person in any way shape or form
- you have a right to surround yourself with people you enjoy, indeed, you have a right to happiness
- people liking you doesn't mean you are a good person
- you liking something or someone doesn't mean that that thing is good

it is a misconception I think a lot of people hold, and it's not truth.


I really appreciated this video! May help you too (and it's really short!)

One question to ask [yourself] when someone doesn't like you

@valrus @y6nH oh yeah, aquafaba is useful for a lot of stuff. It's generally a serviceable eggwhite substitute, although the stuff that comes in cans of commercially-prepared beans tends to have a bunch of salt and other flavoring agents in it which make it less desirable for that purpose.

@idesofmerch Do what feels good. Both approaches have merit.

The bean slime will add some starch and thickness but also some salt.

UK, trans, - 

@fluffy Sadly, it's largely gone downhill. The Gender Identity Clinics (of which only one handles minors) have always been wretchedly regressive, being the embodiment of gatekeeping, but since around 2015 or so, the waiting lists for the adult clinics have spiralled into absurdity - London, f'rex, is currently seeing people referred in Oct 2017, and that date's advancing to the next month somewhere around every 5-8 months.

With the minors' clinic, GIDS, it's worse - even once you can be seen, they require at least a year on blockers before HRT. Add in more gatekeeping, and it's quite common for patients to simply age out of the system and get dropped into one of the adult clinics, though at least with some priority.

It recently grew far worse. The UK press has been on a TERF spree since the announcement in 2017 of reform of the Gender Recognition Act, an awful process in which a panel you'll never meet decides whether to accept your gender and update it in a legal sense - expensive, bureaucratic. The TERFs launched all-out, and one recent High Court ruling (Bell v Tavistock) means all GIDS treatment is in peril, largely halted. Only GenderGP exists now - all the other private options are, understandably, wary of going anywhere near prescribing for under-18s.

Some hope exists: three new GICs have opened, all *listening* to people and what they want of transition. But all adult-only, all limited in intake as initial trials. A very positive harbinger, though.

@anonny125 I like the take that all of the previous games were just the fantasy stories told by the people in BotW as they tried to piece together the weird artifacts that Link and Zelda found.

@porsupah gosh, I’m glad that’s an option for them but also deeply saddened that it’s an option they have to take.

And I say this as someone who went down that path in 2004, after researching it starting in the late 90s. Haven’t things gotten better since then?!

@x51 @somarasu peertube is overkill and the federation has been overrun by nazis. Better to just do static file hosting and run a script that converts your videos to HLS using FFMPEG, which is the only valuable part of what peertube does for self-hosting.

@craigmaloney @cb yeah bandcamp doesn’t charge the band for hosting, but they discourage $0 downloads by putting limits on them (which are based on the amount of revenue you’ve generated). It’s totally fair (and if your release is pay-what-you-want then there will generally be enough β€œtips” sent to keep you under the limit), but if you want to make a release totally free-not-even-tips, putting it on as well is a good idea.

when people in your life tell you they would prefer you use a different pronoun for them;
instead of complaining, protesting, and making excuses for why it's too hard for you to do, why not try being like these kids?

accessibility, tech 

@JennyFluff EXIF data would be the way to go about doing that but as you say, support for it is limited and inconsistent, and most things specifically strip it out for privacy (see the recent Parler privacy hilarity for why that’s a good idea in general).

Unfortunately there’s no general mechanism for out-of-band metadata to stick with a file, so it’s all up to the file itself to carry it along, and for tools to use it properly.

@mod does this mean her attention gets drawn to dudes’ crotches?

Maybe some of the "alternative technologies" (messengers, social networks, operating systems) and their communities need more "driving people" that aren't enthusiastic about technology but actually dislike computers, smartphones, networks very much and want to minimize the time spent using or dealing with these tools. This might provide very interesting insights into why some things work and some don't.

If the argument that comes after "I have Black friends" is "therefore I can ignore what other Black people say about antiblackness" then no, no you do not have Black friends.

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