the problem with respectability is that nothing you do will convince a bigot that trans people are ok. no matter how much you try to be the nice forgiving queer, they'll still find some issue to pick and blame it on all transies. There's no course of action that can prevent this.
what you can do is to teach a bigot that trans people bite back.
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