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medical gatekeeping, beard dysphoria (−, 1/2) 

my health insurance company wants photos of my beard to ~prove~ that I ~deserve~ beard removal.

I sent them one, they asked for more pictures in various angles.

This is like asking somebody with arachnophobia ‘please take macro photos of the spiders that make you feel the worst.’

medical gatekeeping, beard dysphoria (−, 2/2) 

unsure they even understand…. Not only it is intensely distressing to take close-up pictures of a dysphoria trigger, but I can’t leave the house like this.

I don’t have much beard left (from a cis POV), and to grow enough to convince a random cis person that there is a problem, I’ll have to let it grow several days. I can’t skip so many work days. Meaning I’ll have to spend the rest of the holidays, New Year’s inclusive, stuck home, avoiding mirrors…

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medical gatekeeping, beard dysphoria (−, 2/2) 

@elilla very extremely glad i started lasers long before starting hrt

anyway, the Krankenkasse has no right to play hard to get, given how many Krankenkassen there are, and how easy it is to switch (supposedly)

i would write them an email explaining what you did in these two posts, without big words, and without making the threat of switching,

medical gatekeeping, beard dysphoria (−, 2/2) 

@elilla and if they still refuse to comply with granting you the six electrolysis sessions for beard and six for chest you're entitled to*, and them back a termination notice

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*i should find you a link

medical gatekeeping, beard dysphoria (−, 2/2) 

@meena thank you, this is valuable information for me! I didn’t know we were allowed to have chest electrolysis also

medical gatekeeping, beard dysphoria (−, 2/2) 

@elilla Oh, good grief.. that's a wretched situation indeed. Last time I was in that kind of position was going to a consultation for electro under a local. Ugh, having that stubbly fuzz across my face.. that was bad enough, but having to be *out in public*.. if anyone anywhere gets the idea of such a service *at your home*, they'd be set for life.

(At least the surviving hairs are just those laser wasn't effective on)

**hug** I hope you manage through this. They may not give a damn, but we do.

medical gatekeeping, beard dysphoria (−, 1/2) 

@elilla Wow. Much sympathy :heart_trans:

medical gatekeeping, beard dysphoria (−, 1/2) 

@elilla I had a similar problem going without shaving before electrolysis. Maybe a surgical mask would help? It’s something I’ve thought of trying.

medical gatekeeping, beard dysphoria (−, 1/2) 

@ghost_bird
thing is, unlike Japan I don’t think it’s common culture to go out with medical masks here in Germany. if I need groceries or something I usually go out with a winter face mask (something like this: burton.com/static/product/W20/ ) and people already start eyeing me weirdly… once at a café I was even asked if I was sick—pretty sure a surgical mask would make them think I’m contagious.

So *def* not a choice for a New Year night of queer clubbing!

medical gatekeeping, beard dysphoria (−, 1/2) 

@elilla I guess you could make it work as part of a clubbing outfit... but yes, that’s a problem. (They’re not common in London either, but they’re not completely unknown.)

medical gatekeeping, beard dysphoria (−, 1/2) 

@elilla That's horrible and no one should ever have to do it. I'm sorry you need to put up with this.

medical gatekeeping, beard dysphoria (−, 1/2) 

@elilla ughh. that's horrible, I'm sorry :((

[If advice wanted: all I can think about that might work are those huge scarfs - you can wrap them around half your face. They don't offer as good coverage as surgical masks but yeah...]

medical gatekeeping, beard dysphoria (−, 1/2) 

@elilla Oh, that;s awful :(

medical gatekeeping, beard dysphoria (−, 1/2) 

@elilla that's super messed up. i'm sorry.

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