I've started a short and less official survey where you can rate how you feel about all the pronouns on a list.

It is open to EVERYONE regardless of gender or cis/trans status.


Open until at least 12 noon UK time on Tuesday 26th July 2022.


This survey has nearly 900 replies now, which is awesome, and I set the closing time to be a week from when I opened it but I want to write it up now. :D


So far so good on this informal pronouns survey for anyone of any gender - about 1,500 responses. :)


It could do with more men (especially cis men) participating, and more cis women too, so RTs welcome! It closes on Tuesday.

This informal pronoun survey is meant to end today, but I'd really like to get to 200 participants for both cisgender men and transgender women before I close it. It's at 139 and 123 respectively.


Open to everyone of any gender!

There have now been almost 2,000 responses to this pronouns survey that is open to ANYONE of any gender: docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAI

I'm still hoping to get 200 responses from all the Big Gender Groups, so I've made a public spreadsheet for those figures: docs.google.com/spreadsheets/d

Only 11 cisgender men and 15 transgender women until results-publishing time.

Survey open to anyone of any gender (or lack thereof)!


(Also, hello to the person who said in the feedback box that the survey needs more ferrets; you are probably correct.)

Wait, 5 cisgender men and 2 TRANSgender women, sorry - it's 1am, brain not working. 👍

There have now been more than 200 responses in each of the Big Gender Groups so I'll be publishing the results of the pronoun survey soon, but not this evening because I'm literally falling asleep, and tomorrow might be busy, so you have a bit more time to take part.

@cassolotl I didn't think to put this in the feedback box at the time, but it would have been cool to have some option for "sometimes" on the pronoun choices. Maybe on some days a pronoun set is the best, but sometimes it's only OK or not great.

Not sure how to put that into an easy multiple-choice format, though.

@stelepami Hmmm, yes, an "it varies" option could go in the middle, but then I don't know what to do with it at the end when I'm counting everything!

@cassolotl Yeah, I have no idea how to capture that in a way that's helpful for your numbers. Putting an extra dimension on each answer "always/sometimes/never The Best", "always/sometimes/never Hard No" sounds complicated and might be overkill.

@cassolotl I know several people who wouldn't respond to that survey simply because it's a google form.

@cassolotl Please don't use google and other similar corporate tools (that don't respect privacy) to collect sensitive information. There are enough #foss tools that don't have these problems (for example, surveys or forms in #nextcloud)

@cassolotl OK happy to help. I'm pretty boring in this regard though, although I work to respect other people's pronouns.

@Dseitz In surveys, boring is still interesting to me! :) Thanks for taking part!

@cassolotl Hi ! I'm trying to answer your survey but I'm struggling with the context. Who's supposed to refer to me using these pronouns and how? Is it my mom? Is it someone who's never seen me? Are they sending me an email or talking to me? Are they talking about me to someone else? I can think of different contexts where I'm more or less comfortable with different pronouns. Did you have something specific in mind?

@legendarybassoon There's no specific situation, just when someone is talking about you (not to you, though you may be present). :)

survey feedback, negative 

@cassolotl I opened the survey and noped out real quick. I deal with enough people misusing pronouns around/about me on a daily basis, I found a negative feeling about hypothetical pronouns being used for me. it was not a great time so I left. (I'm a they/them enby, for the record.)

@cassolotl Ruth Ozeki’s novel, The Book of Form and Emptiness, features a genderqueer ferret, and the moment I encountered the concept of a genderqueer ferret, I was like “But of course they are!”

@cassolotl The famous incident in which a ferret bit a TV presenter who’d just misgendered them: youtu.be/G9xHEj3Gk4Q

@cassolotl just shared it with my partner who is a trans woman, she's baffled at the demographics your survey has had 😂😅

@wolfie Haha, it's so hard for me to find people other than nonbinary people for my surveys! XD

@wolfie But also I've had lots of cis women taking part, and lots of trans men??

Yeah your partner is right, this set of demographics is arranged in a very odd and specific shape, I want to understand!

@cassolotl I'm sure its okay but do you mind if I go through this data and do some analysis of my own? I have a few curiosities myself and I am interested in some particular intersectionalities between pronouns, gender (especially certain genders), and gender expression.

Of course if and when I do present this info I would make sure to credit you and state that it is my own opinion and analysis.

@ZenithTheReborn If it helps, all the data for the past 7 (ish??) annual gender census surveys can be found through gendercensus.com/results too, in spreadsheet form!

@cassolotl More data for the data-hungry brain! :blobfoxlurkowonotice:

Thank you! I will enjoy pouring over all the results and using that with my analysis. :blobfoxcomfysip:

@cassolotl Seems like overall comfort and "ease of use" is a driving factor here. Personally when writing about people with specific pronoun choices, I try to stick to them but it's definitely at least one proofreading pass just for neopronouns.

@cassolotl (i.e. They/they is pretty common historically and in colloquial usage so it's probably "easiest.")

@cassolotl Oh, and :slaps forehead: thanks for sharing the results!

@Dseitz I think it's hard to speculate on that with this particular set of data, because I didn't include a checkbox for "I'm not familiar with this pronoun set"! But yes that is a plausible theory, from casually eyeballing it, I think?

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