Women who are NOT trans, how do you feel about your past/present/future ability (or inability) to give birth?
a) I don't want to be pregnant/give birth, or wish I was unable
b) I'd be up for it but no strong feelings either way
c) I'm glad I can become pregnant, or wish I could
@cassolotl I was A for a long time, then shifted to a B for awhile. I had a baby in 2020 and I think I’m back to an A. I’d still be a B, but I don’t want to go through it again. If that all makes sense.
@KARiley40 Yeah, it does! I'm sure there will be a lot of people whose answers are a bit complicated and unquantifiable like that, and I'm into it, I like to know about the people who don't fit into the boxes. :) Thank you for telling me about it!
@cassolotl any time! You are also always welcome to prod me with random questions if you need anything.
@cassolotl I'm not quite cis and feel uncomfortable calling myself a woman, but I have the equipment, so I voted.
I used to be closer to B (as in "I'd be up for it under a specific set of circumstances and conditions"), but the older I get, I'm more like "I don't want kids, I want to make art".
@cassolotl I used to be blasé about it until I got older and started dating someone seriously that I could see myself starting a family with
@cassolotl Hmmm, that was much harder to answer than I would have thought. Actually... when I was younger, it would have been B. When I then was pregnant and the first three years after giving birth, it was clearly C. After having a miscarriage, it was A. 😕
And now I.. don't know. I tend to C, but... So much anxiety that the next pregnancy would not work out again. So much pressure because it's *my* body that's "responsible" for everything working and that it's me who has to bear almost all the consequences. I honestly wish the next pregnancy would be on my husband.
@cassolotl for the 2nd poll, I was curious about being pregnant and labor (although ambivalent about actually having/raising a child.) Then I was pregnant and hated it (and found labor the best part so at least the pregnancy was over.) Then was postpartum and nursing and also pretty unhappy with my body doing all that (nursed 2 years.) And very very glad when that was all done + no desire to repeat it. But am infinitely grateful I have the child I have and would do anything for her.
@cassolotl i voted A. i think pregnancy is scary and uncomfortable, and while i really like kids, i don't want to bear them and be a mother.
@cassolotl I'm in a pinch : I (a cis woman) don't know what to answer.
For the longest time I didn't want to give birth. I didn't want children at all.
Few years ago I'd have answered A in a second.
Now, I want children. I am the only one of my couple that can bear a child, adoption is out of the question.
But I still feel afraid and uncomfortable with the idea of giving birth.
I'm definitely not a C, but I'm not a B either, since I have strong (and conflicted) feelings about it.
I guess I don't fit in your statistics 😅
@cassolotl Got news a few years back that my condition would result in my death from pregnancy and so really, uh, not down for that, so definitely an A.
Despite this, still can't get the equipment removed
@ositalinguista WOW, you would think they would just remove the danger organs?? (They could even leave your ovaries in so you don't get osteoporosis and such, there's really no good reason for them to be bastards about it! 🙄)
@cassolotl I went for B because I want kids but have mixed feelings about pregnancy. So it's kind of like, yes I am up for being pregnant but I don't have strongly positive feelings towards it...?
@cassolotl The results surprised, maybe even shocked, me. I thought most people would want to give birth/have children. Thank you for this eye-opening poll.
Now I wonder what the reasons could be ...
@Bella Well, the results will definitely be heavily biased, because internet users are a subset of the general public that is skewed a bit younger, and then users of social media are a subset of those people, and then the actual poll participants will be the regular users subset, and also the "followers of Cassian and their followers in turn" subset... So yeah I don't think it is at all representative!
I guess that's a long way of saying "people with kids don't have time for Twitter"?
@cassolotl I did the first poll and answered C.
If I'm honest I'm also unhappy that my body is able to impregnate people. I'd rather be unable to reproduce at all. It is more about that than anything else.
Just in case that matters at all.
@cassolotl I ultimately voted C, but the way the answers are phrased, neither B nor C really work for me.
I wouldn't "be up for it", as in - I wouldn't get pregnant if it were biologically possible for cis men.
But I also don't derive any particular active happiness from the fact, as the way C is phrased implies.
Just one guy's opinion, but I do feel the phrasing of the answers is very narrow and a little off.
@cassolotl or to perhaps illustrate it with an analogy, imagine the question replaced "getting pregnant" with "owning a private jet".
Would I be up for buying a private jet if I could affor it? No. Am I glad I can't afford it? No, that's not the case, either.
@firstname.lastname@example.org nothing. Then again I have a pretty typical simplistic male drive that goes "find good mate, mate." So in my mind, this question is sorta side-stepped and ignored.
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