Everything I post is written in good faith.
If I'm being snarky or sarcastic, it's toward the powerful and bigoted.
If you think I'm calling you out, it's 99.999% likely that I am not and I just wrote something lame without realizing it.
We don't have to be the same or even particularly similar for me to like you.
I will never try to make you feel guilty for feeling down.
And then in the moment I realize how awful it sounds, and I have to actually say out loud that I'm not OK, and it staggers me. Because there's the simmering, baseline not OK and then there's today on top of that.
Of course sometimes unlikely things happen, or I miss an obvious possibility because I had a blind spot.
Even then, I can fall back on the knowledge that I tried my best to make things turn out right. That gives me some solace.
I'm not imaging things going wrong out of a sense of doom or despair.
I imagine those things so that I can have a plan of attack if they actually do occur.
🏳️⚧️ Married, trans. You are the only expert on who you are. she/her